What is fear?
It is easy to show fear than to define it. Indeed, action speaks louder than words.
Fear comes in many forms, but whatever it is or whether one could see and/or hold it, it is something that settles deep within us and in our minds and grabs onto our souls. It makes us believe we will fail, convinces us that what we think we know is actually false, and tells us that we will lose everything we love and work hard for. Fear is not just about being scared of the dark or being afraid when we hear noises at night.
Self-help author Napoleon Hill was right to remark “Fears are nothing more than a state of mind.”
How does fear do to you?
Fear brings out the worst in everyone. It prevents the most talented from giving out their very best. It cripples ideas, stalls success and innovation, and kills creativity. It drains the life out of every human being, turns inspiration into waste, every creative into self-doubter.
How do you respond to fear? 4 keys to conquer fear
We human beings do not exist to inhibit ourselves. We live to express ourselves. We do not live to hide in a cave but to contribute to society. We live not to feed our doubt and insecurities, but to reach our full potential. Ralph Waldo Emerson says, “What you are afraid to do is a clear indication of the next thing you need to do.”
The first key to conquering fear is focus. Are you focusing on the unknown or on your ability to face the unknown? Do you focus on your fears rather than on your dreams? “Focus on your goals, not on your fears,” says politician Roy Bennett. Check your focus, and sharpen it at every opportunity.
The second (and perhaps the most important) key is action. As writer Dale Carnegie puts it, “Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.”
Fear and doubt feed on inaction. Do something, anything. It is better to act than to react or wait for the situation to fall in your favor.
The third key is decision. Fear also feeds on indecision, which happens to be the same thing as the fear of the unknown. Make a choice even if you are not yet sure of the outcome. Though you could imagine the very worst thing that could happen, decide what you would do if it did happen – and how you would feel if it did happen and that you act on it. The moment you dread, turn it into an hour of decision, and your fear of the unknown into an action plan.
The fourth and last key is affirmation. Affirm your dreams and abilities, not your fears and insecurities. Affirm that you own the power to control your destiny. Affirm that you can conquer your fears and reduce them to dust, that you choose to be happy, positive, confident, enthusiastic and faith-filled each day, instead of being fearful and negative.
Don’t let your fear of what could happen make nothing happen. Believe that you could overcome your fears, and you will.
The choice is yours
Fear (F.E.A.R) has two meanings: “forget everything and run” or “face everything and rise”. When you are afraid or insecure or in doubt, do you flee and hide or do you come out and fight? What would be your reaction to the realities of life?